Breaking Barriers: How To Overcome The Fear Of Being Coached

Let’s face it, the idea of being coached can be a little intimidating.

Opening up and letting someone else guide your growth? It can feel like stepping off a cliff, not knowing if there’s a safety net below. 

But here’s the thing: coaching isn’t about losing control; it’s about gaining clarity.

It’s not about dependence; it’s about healthy collaboration. And the benefits? They’re transformative. Think stronger relationships, better emotional intelligence, and an overall “increased sense of well-being,” says TaskHuman Coach Stefan Mihaljevic.

Let’s explore how you can overcome that fear to make the most of what coaching offers you as a professional.

Why Do We Fear Being Coached?

Why does the idea of coaching make some of us squirm? 

We get it. It’s like inviting someone into your inner sanctum, shining a flashlight on the dusty corners you’d rather keep hidden. 

But as Coach Stefan wisely points out, there’s more to it than just vulnerability. Sometimes, it’s that deep-seated reluctance to ask for help, that stubborn streak of independence that whispers, “I should be able to handle this on my own.”

So, let’s break down those fears, shall we?

• Fear of Judgment and Vulnerability: Nobody likes feeling judged. Coaching means opening up about areas where we might feel insecure or inadequate. It’s like standing on stage, spotlight blazing, hoping we don’t trip over our own two feet.

• Fear of Change: Coaching is all about growth, and growth means change. Stepping out of our comfort zone can be terrifying, even if we know it’s for the best.

• Loss of Control: The idea of someone else guiding our growth can feel like surrendering the reins. We’re used to being in the driver’s seat, and letting go can be unsettling.

• Past Negative Experiences: If you’ve had bad experiences with authority figures in the past, it’s understandable to be wary of a coaching relationship. Trust doesn’t come easy when it’s been broken before.

• Misconceptions About Coaching: Let’s clear this up right now: coaching is NOT about criticism. It’s not a sign of weakness. It’s a powerful tool for self-discovery and empowerment.

These fears are real, and they’re valid. But they don’t have to hold you back. As Coach Stefan says, “When a person is really ready… it’s almost like 40% of everything’s been accomplished.” 

Recognizing these fears is the first step towards overcoming them.

After all, what’s the alternative? Living in fear for the rest of your life and not really knowing what your full potential could be? 

Doesn’t sound great, does it?

How To Overcome The Fear Of Being Coached

Alright, let’s turn your fears into stepping stones. 

It’s time to break down those barriers and embrace the transformative power of coaching. Remember, you’ve already taken that first crucial step by acknowledging your fears. Now, let’s equip you with the tools to overcome them.

• Reframing Your Mindset: It all starts in your head.

  • View coaching as a partnership, not a critique: As Coach Stefan puts it, “Coaching is not just a set of certain rules; it’s about relationships as well.” Your coach isn’t there to judge you; they’re there to collaborate with you. Think of them as a trusted ally, someone who’s got your back and wants to see you succeed.

  • See vulnerability as strength, not weakness: It takes guts to open up and show your true self. Embrace that vulnerability. It’s a sign of courage, not weakness. It shows you’re ready to invest in yourself and your development.

  • Embrace change as an opportunity for growth: Change can be scary, but it’s also exhilarating. Think of coaching as a chance to step into a new, improved version of yourself.

• Choosing the Right Coach: This is key. It’s like finding the perfect dance partner – you need someone who understands your rhythm and can lead you gracefully.

  • Find someone you connect with and trust: Coach Stefan emphasizes the importance of trust. “A coach should be a trustworthy person,” he says. Look for someone who makes you feel comfortable and understood.

  • Ensure they have experience and expertise in your areas of need: Don’t be afraid to ask about their qualifications and experience. You want someone who knows their stuff and can guide you effectively.

  • Look for someone who creates a safe and supportive environment: Coaching should feel empowering, not intimidating. Your coach should be someone who celebrates your wins and helps you navigate your challenges with compassion and understanding.

• Setting Clear Expectations: Communication is key in any relationship, and coaching is no exception.

  • Discuss your goals and fears with your coach: Be upfront about what you want to achieve and what’s holding you back.

  • Establish clear communication and feedback channels: Know how and when you’ll connect with your coach, and how you’ll receive feedback.

  • Understand the coaching process and your role in it: Coaching is a two-way street. You’re an active participant, not just a passenger along for the ride.

• Taking Small Steps: Don’t try to conquer Mount Everest in a day.

  • Focus on one or two key areas for development: Trying to change everything at once can be overwhelming. Start small and build from there.

  • Celebrate small wins and progress along the way: Acknowledge your achievements, no matter how small they seem. Every step forward is a victory.

• Being Open and Honest: Authenticity is the foundation of a successful coaching relationship.

  • Communicate openly with your coach about your experiences: Share your thoughts, feelings, and challenges.

  • Don’t be afraid to ask questions or express concerns: Your coach is there to support you, not judge you.

  • Be willing to step outside your comfort zone and try new things: Growth happens when we challenge ourselves. Trust your coach to guide you safely through those uncharted territories.

Remember, overcoming fear is a process, not an overnight event. It’s okay to feel those butterflies in your stomach. As Coach Stefan encourages us, “It’s okay to feel afraid, you know. Just do it… Despite the fear.”

So take a deep breath, embrace the unknown, and step onto that coaching diving board. You might be surprised at how exhilarating the plunge can be.

Remember, coaching isn’t just for the elite or the struggling; it’s for anyone who wants to unlock their full potential and live a more fulfilling life.

As Stefan so beautifully puts it, “Coaching is a process. A serious continuous change which each one follows from the one before.” It’s a journey of self-discovery, empowerment, and transformation. And it all starts with that first brave step.

So, if you’re ready to embrace the power of coaching, don’t let fear hold you back. Find a TaskHuman Coach who resonates with you, someone who can hold that space for you to grow and evolve. 

Now, take that next step and unlock the extraordinary life that awaits you.

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Learn more in the TaskHuman Talks Podcast episode below with coaches Jamie Carroll and Stefan Mihaljevic: